Life, photos but not the universe

Money can’t buy some things

But that’s not always the point.

I’m having a snuffle moment.

A close friend of ours was diagnosed with terminal cancer a few weeks ago.  Barney, being the kind of person he is, immediately discovered that there were some things this friend had always wanted to do and that he now felt he’d would never be in a financial position to do them before it was too late  (He’s been given approximately a year) and being the sort of person he is, Barney immediately planned a collection so that at least one or two of the choices that the disease has taken from our friend might be given back.

So willy nilly, we emailed a crowd of his friends, some of them complete strangers to us, and suggested a collection to give him the chance to do at least one of the things he wanted to do.

We collected a fairly large amount of cash from this guy’s friends.  He’s a very sweet man with a lot of friends.  And today, he had a gap between chemo and all the other miserable stuff that goes with the disease and he and his wife came over for dinner.  We gave him a cheque and a card signed by everyone who had contributed and then we all snuffled a bit (well to be honest he just wept)  and I have to say, we felt fortunate to have been able to do something for him.

Later on, when the cancer really gets stuck in there will be more things we might be able to do but for now, a number of people who couldn’t,  for one reason or another, do anything much, have been able to do something and while there’s absolutely no way anyone imagines that this will change the basic situation, it does mean that our dear friend knows that a lot of people care about him and that he’s got one or two possible choices back that had been stolen from him.




June 5, 2011 - Posted by | Uncategorized | , , ,


  1. Much moved. Well done. Proud to have read this.

    Comment by Christopher | June 6, 2011 | Reply

  2. He knows you all care. There is nothing better than that and he is not alone right now.

    Comment by rosie | June 6, 2011 | Reply

  3. Thank you Rosie and Christopher.

    Comment by letouttoplay | June 6, 2011 | Reply

  4. I had to step away from the computer and water flowers. It’s theraputic, dontchaknow.

    I have to say this is one of the most loving things… Truly. A year, for him, is the rest of his life–it’s his opportunity and you made good one ‘wish’, at the very least. I hope you, himself and those who put their name on the card really GET how priceless that gift truly was.
    I’m sure you do.
    Bless your hearts–every one of them.
    I mean that.

    (((((((( Mig and Barney ))))))))

    You guys rock!
    Seriously ROCK!!

    Comment by Mel | June 7, 2011 | Reply

  5. yeay!

    and yes, snuffles


    Comment by english inukshuk | June 7, 2011 | Reply

  6. yay!

    Comment by Linda | June 7, 2011 | Reply

  7. sniff
    your husband is a sweetie…

    Comment by ☼Illuminary☼ | June 7, 2011 | Reply

  8. Dear Mel, I think we did all get the point. The instant response from all those who did contribute and the generosity they showed was so affirming and so revealing. It’s simply lovely to know that people will still do that kind of thing – even by email and via a stranger in these days of mass suspicion and mistrust! (And there was some of that too). It’s a truly good knee-jerk response!

    Yay Inukshuk and Linda, and sniffle again 🙂

    Hugs all round : )

    Comment by letouttoplay | June 8, 2011 | Reply

  9. Yes he is Illuminary – and more than that, the kind of sweetie who acts natural and doesn’t count consequences.

    Comment by letouttoplay | June 8, 2011 | Reply

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